I'm a Camgirl

My name is Dahlia Dee.
I'm 19 years old, and I have a full time job that would probably shock your grandma.
I'm a camgirl.

For those of you who don't know, a camgirl is the digital era's prostitute. The escort of the virtual age. Men (and sometimes women) come to me for companionship, consolation, conversation - and most of all, sex. In exchange, I broaden my horizons. I get to interact on a very intimate level with people from all over the world. And, of course, I get money. And a pretty good amount of it, at that.

But it's not all peaches and cream. It's not like you can take off your shirt and suddenly the financial world is your oyster. Being a camgirl is deceptively hard, and camming really is a full time job. It's about promoting and marketing your own business, creating a name for yourself, finding that little niche in the grand scheme of things where you fit in - all the while being the product, the showgirl, the bread and butter. Websites promise you "$10,000 a week from home in just a few hours a day!", which lures thousands of young girls into showing their stuff and being very disappointed with the payout. The truth is, it takes years to build the fan base that will turn over that kind of income. It takes hours upon hours of grueling labor, replying to thousands of messages a day from needy clients who live in a fantasy world where they're your only priority. At the same time, you're maintaining your body, your hair, your face, your image, to stay presentable, fashionable and on top of the trends. There's no time for a sick day in this business if you want to make real money. Even when you're not live on camera, you're still working. It doesn't stop. Camming is a 24 hour a day job.

A day in the life for me consists of waking up around 8am. I go straight to the gym, where I work out for about 2 hours. I come home, shower, and get directly to work. My Skype account gets turned on and I'm monitoring my twitter account while I'm putting on my face for the day. Hair, makeup, and body maintenance take about 3 hours, between updating social media and replying to clients who just can't seem to wait for me to get online. When that's done, I take about 30 promo photos that can be uploaded during the day to keep my profiles on different sites relevant and fresh. I update my twitter. "Hey guys, getting ready to sign on - come join me!" Then, it's finally time to start my real work day.

By the looks of things, you'd think that this job is easy. It's just girls sitting around and looking pretty, isn't it? In reality, camgirls go through a lot just to pay our bills. We deal with "trolls", freeloading clients who will join our chat for the sole purpose of making our day hell. They'll taunt us and tease us, make fun of our looks, our body, anything they can get at. After spending at least 5 hours on appearance by this point, those remarks cut deep...almost as deep as the constant hatred from "anti-porn" advocates who think that camgirls are degraded wastes of potential and talent. In reality, a lot of us are very smart, business oriented women and men. It varies just as any other job does.

Then, there's the work we go through when we're actually ENJOYING our jobs. You have to catch the right angles, make sure you look attractive and seductive at all times. Cameras can make for some seriously unflattering angles, let me tell you! Plus, there are infinite numbers of fetishes out there. The saying is, "if it exists, there's a fetish for it." and it's so true. Every minute spent with a paying client entails assessing that client's personal needs, finding out what will satisfy them and bring them back for more. Some fetishes are very dark and difficult to deal with, but we do them anyway - it's better to have a pedophile acting out his fantasies on a legally aged camgirl than to not have an outlet and turn to the real thing, right? We smile and we accommodate them and smile more and pretend we are whatever they want us to be. I've been a dominatrix, I've been a submissive slave. I've been years younger than my real age and I've been years older. All of these things are just a daily part of our lives.

It's not all darkness and despair, though. Sometimes, there are really great days. Days where it all pays off - where a sweet regular client will give you a "just because" tip, or a new client will come along who has a really awesome personality and is buckets of fun, or an anonymous follower of your profile on some social media site will buy you something nice from your wishlist. Like any job, webcam modelling has its ups and downs - and that's what makes the whole thing so much fun.

I really do adore my job. I love meeting new people and encouraging them toward sexual release. I love showing off the body that I've worked so hard on. I love the endless stream of compliments. I love the friends I've made and the connections I've discovered with coworkers from all of the ends of the earth. In fact, my best friend is a camgirl and she lives thousands of miles away from me. Yeah, I love the attention. It's all in a day's work.

What I'd really love for people to come away from this with is - sex workers are people too. We work our 9-5 jobs just like everyone else - and sometimes, we're working a lot more than that. We are deserving of love and respect and admiration and praise, the same as the next person. And camming isn't all it's cracked up to be. Sure, it's a fantastic job and I'd never trade it for anything else in the world...but it takes a certain mindset, and a certain work ethic. It's not for everyone.

It's not just about sitting there and looking pretty.


You can find me on Twitter at @xoDahliaDee for more info, or at http://www.ladahlia.com.

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xyloto3000 Superstar
January 21, 2014 - 18:37

That's a great article Dahlia !

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LaDahlia Queen
January 21, 2014 - 20:08

This article was written for a local magazine. Smiley :) Hope everyone enjoys ^__^

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katyannmilf Hotshot
January 21, 2014 - 21:20

Thanks Great Read

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Jessilane Demigod
January 21, 2014 - 22:02

smart beautiful sensual young amazing! thank you for sharing. Jessi

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RedJules Goddess
January 22, 2014 - 14:13

I agree with many you said but to me it's not as complicated as it may seem, you either have what it takes or not.

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Jumbo Queen
January 22, 2014 - 14:49

great article

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farahsamir Ninja
January 22, 2014 - 18:07

Well written.

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Dezaray Experienced
January 22, 2014 - 19:56

I genuinely enjoyed reading your article and could relate on every aspect. Thank you not only for sharing it within this cam community but your local community as well...that's definitely something I wouldn't have the courage to do.

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pandora Goddess
January 23, 2014 - 17:55

Fantastic!!! I am going to print this out and include it in my journal... maybe even in the book i am working on about Women... Thanks so much for this article.

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LILASTONE Superstar
January 24, 2014 - 4:18

Very nice. Thank you for sharing Ur thoughtsSmiley (H)

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BigBellaNova Goddess
January 24, 2014 - 7:28

D - this was fucking fabulous!

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VenusLove Experienced
January 29, 2014 - 5:10

Right on! What magazine is it published in?

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LaDahlia Queen
January 29, 2014 - 18:34

Thanks everyone for the kind words! Venus, it's actually online now at http://ixdaily.com/the-grind/confessions-camgirl#.UtgsW7Q9UWI Smiley :)

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BCharlee Hero
January 30, 2014 - 10:21

Wonderful Smiley :)

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sexychelay Amateur
February 2, 2014 - 20:17

very good article and very well written!!

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michaela Beginner
May 2, 2016 - 21:54

thanks, gracias por compartir esto, me siento identificada contigo

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Diana_Devil Expert
November 30, 2018 - 7:34

The article is good and accurate. Only one problem if you call yourself and see yourself like a digital prostitute then your place is not in this industry. I make this job since 2011 and I was a real life prostitute also and I assure you that being a cam girl has nothing to to with prostitution. Being a cam girl is a complex thing and far from being a prostitute, even digital one. Being a camgirl is mor like a marriage with the difference that we are ways willing and we make our husband pleasure. If you see yourself like a prostitute doing camgirl I simply feel sad for you.

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