In the Spotlight will be a new returning topic on WeCamgirls. Today's guest is KaitlinK. Thank you for your time and enjoy the read!
How old are you and where are you from?
I'm 34 and from the Central Timezone of your dreams :-P I've lived all over and being raised in the South can do a convincing accent.
Is webcam modelling your day job?
I do mainstream freelance and webdesign work, and the other half of my time is taken up with webcam/adult stuff. I think the 2 things complement eachother.
How did you come in contact with the cambusiness?
A long time ago at the end of 2003 when I graduated college... Though I knew about it back in 2002, and was curious, but I didn't have the nerve and had all sorts of hangups about getting naked with strangers. I got really into it in 2004 or 5 after I started chatting with CamGirlMinnie and she sold me my first camcorder with a remote control zoom!
I kept my fetish clips up off and on, but quit camming between 2007 til the end of 2013. SO much has changed in 6 years! iFriends used to be THE site, and the tipping model of MyFreeCams & Chaturbate used to not exist!
How would you describe yourself as a camgirl?
Fun and fetishy, kinda nerdy! I've tried different kinds of jobs, and burnt out on a few. I have a deep appreciation for my fans. This is a real release from focusing on tech work and dealing with corporate people. It's nice to escape into my fantasies!
Where can we see you and how long have you been working there?
Skype - for the past 2-3 years I've taken webcam chats by appointment, but not really marketed myself that way
Chaturbate - http://chaturbate.com/p/kaitlink/ - since late last year, this is where I cam most often.
iFriends - http://www.ifriends.net/visitme/KAITLINK - since 2004 - but I deleted my old username since I stupidly started going as my real name
NiteFlirt - http://www.niteflirt.com/KaitlinK - since 2003 although my profile says 2005 (it was the first site I joined, but back then it was named Keen or something and they had some obvious changes, and I think I deleted my first account).
Have you also been working on different sites?
I've been trying out KinkLive, and sporadically I try to get on iFriends. I upload candid stills to CamWhores. I have a love/hate with Skype because I suck at keeping track of time, especially when someone is nice, and I don't cam with guys who are not nice.
Do you also have a personal website?
http://FurPassion.com - my main and longest running site that I designed myself
http://KaitlinK.com - via ModelCentro
http://KaitlinKCams.com - I need to work on this more, but it has info about my camshows
Do you have a special room prepared in your house for your shows?
Yes and no. I can webcam from my storage unit, and it seems logically like the best place since all my 40+ furs are there and my HUGE collection of lingerie, and my old bed set... BUT it doesn't turn me on. No windows, drafty, chance of getting interrupted, not a safe neighborhood after dark, etc... I might go there more in the summer with the longer days and warmer weather.
I also have a window alcove at home, which also seems perfect... but too much back lighting and awful acoustics and no way to lock the dog out of that room...so I usually just webcam from my bedroom.
How was your first modelling experience?
Back in 2003 or 4ish? I forget. I do remember back then thinking "why was I working this minimum wage job through college and not doing this??!"
Restarting, my first experience at the end of November was pretty awesome. Alot of my fur fetish fans came into my room, stroked my ego, and gave me Christmas presents in tips and wishlist items :-)
What's the most appealing thing about your job?
The flexibility and how well it intersects with doing mainstream freelance and tech work. It kind of fills in the income and "busy" gaps between projects, while allowing me time to shift my attention to mainstream stuff when that gets busy, and gives me more social interaction without going into an office 9-5. I really like the attention, and getting to explore my fantasies, learn about others' fantasies, and interact with people at this level.
What do you like least about your job?
Not being able to be more open about it! I would really like to be promoting my camming and fetish stuff locally and without having a "split personality" online, but I really can't. I just finished a church's website design, and I don't think they'd want to work with me if they knew about my adult stuff! Ditto for some other more corporate clients.
It took me a long time to get over my own inhibitions with this adult stuff. My own mindset has probably been my biggest challenge and one of the things I like least about camming and adult business, although I think I am drawn to it because I like self discovery and growth. Right now, after at least 10 years, I am finally OK with the fact that I will probably always have a foot in some online adult business. It sucks that I can't be more open about it!
Do you have a funny story or experience to share?
Because I never quite quit the fur fetish clips, some of those guys are my longest term fans and some of it can be a little silly, especially when I have my "Fur Fetish Friday" camchats. Once we played a game where they tipped me to put more coats on, and I ended up with 7 fur coats on and wearing another fur as pants.
More seriously: 5 years ago (almost exactly), I left a very abusive man with just what I could fit in a duffel bag and a few other personal belongings. Needless to say, not my furs or lingerie. It was incredibly, deeply, touching to do an inventory of my 35+ furs and fur coats a few weeks ago and realize that I had only bought myself 5 or 6 of them, and that my collection is bigger and better than it ever was, better than I could ever imagine. I didn't really directly ask, and I wasn't very open about what happened immediately afterwards. That has been deeply touching, and every time I wear a fur coat or use one in a show, I have only the happiest thoughts and energy. I am profoundly grateful to all my fans who have followed and supported me through my efforts towards getting over that and improving myself. In my darkest moments, the good energy from online friends and fans added brightness to the light at the end of the tunnel.
In 10+ years of being online with the adult stuff, eventhough I started out using my real name, I have never been hurt by anyone I've met online. It's been the F***tards in my mainstream life.
What are your plans for the future besides cammodelling?
I seriously feel more and more inclined towards furthering sexworker positive attitudes in society, even if it's as small a step as me being open about camming and fetish in my personal life with personal friends. The Internet has opened so many possibilities and has such underutilized potential for good!
To that end, I think it would be SO cool to go to the Adult Entertainment Expo/AVNAwards and have a booth as unaffiliated camgirls next January 2015 :-) The saleslady I talked to said that we could all pay separately towards 1 space. It's so hard to stay organized, but I am pretty sure that it would be the first time that a group of unaffiliated camgirls has had any kind of professional presence (most girls usually attend "for" Streamate, MyFreeCams, etc instead of as "indys" who work several sites and via Skype).
Besides working towards living a more authentic humanistic philosophy, my plans besides cammodeling include learning more about small business video production, internet marketing, WordPress webdesign, and general internet communication. General career and skill development with online technology. This obviously is helped by webcamming :-)
It will be interesting as one of the "older girls" and earlier internet generations, to see how webcamming continues to evolve, and to grow "old" online!
Any tips for new camgirls?
Have patience starting out. It's not as easy as it used to be. The money isn't as quick. Fans are harder to find and there is more competition out there than there used to be.
Get what mainstream job skills you can from this, because it will help motivate you on those slow days while you're building your fanbase. This can only help you! If you sell clips, make a few mainstream video edits to put in your portfolio so that you can tell future employers that you know how to make video blogs and do basic editing. If you have a WordPress blog, you can also tell a mainstream employer that you have experience blogging and updating WordPress. This should be good motivation to keep developing your mainstream stuff, too.
I cannot wait for the day when I can say that I learned most all my job skills from making fetish clips, webcamming, and sexblogging!
Connect with other camgirls, or the social isolation will drive you insane, or you will make preventable mistakes. Everyone needs to vent sometimes! I am so glad to see camgirl forums like this one have appeared in the past 10 years or so The community can be so awesome!
Learn to take good selfies! Put your camera on auto timer and figure it out. There's a TON of info out there, and how to shoot yourself depends on what equipment you have. I've had great luck getting my self portraits professionally exhibited (including one from the set this one is in). Camgirls have really led the modern self portrait trend ever since Jennicam in the late 90s. Embrace it. I could write a whole rant or 3 on so-called "photographers" and guys with cameras.
Appreciate your fans and all the nice guys. They are why you are making any money at all. Treat all your fans and everyone with human dignity, and ignore and block those who don't return your respect. We might be creating fantasies online, but we're dealing with real people and real emotions at the other end of that Internet connection.
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Love it, Kaitlin. I agree with so many of your points and am so glad you share here on WCG!
Great read, and thanks for pointing out that you've never been hurt by anyone you've met online. It's important to have that known.
Girl, from chatting with u I absolutely love ya! You're very talented in so many ways and I feel for u re: the abusive relationship U made it through and are an inspiration to all. I also am pro-adult workers and am all about fighting against the stigma! go girl! xoxo
Right on Kaitlin. You have helped me so very much and are probably the coolest person I know. And most intelligent without making people feel dumb when you explain. PEACE!!! Venus ;o)
Great article! I so appreciate ur insights into this biz., we all relate to some degree. Let's not talk about getting older but getting better!