I've not been as consistent as I should be with My camgirl work - this usually happens when I've had a bad consecutive set of days. What's a bad day for a camgirl? When you sit on cam, fully dolled up, horny, excited about life (whatevs) and 3 hours later…you've made a grand total of $1.75 or something equally ridiculous. I used to think this was exclusive to Me, to BBWs, to Dommes…but even some of the most popular mainstream camgirls go through this. There are a slew of things that can be attributed to downturns, but the bottom line is: you just gotta keep camming! So while I'm camming right now I've come up with a short list of things that happen to us camgirls as a result of the work we do…
1. Sex for free often becomes really unappealing. Not because we're money-hungry whores (nothing wrong with that, though, but because we see the worst of men (and women) on a daily basis…it's difficult to get excited for anything less than fiscal compensation.
2. We go through WAY more weed/cigarettes and bottles of wine/beer/scotch/whatevs than we realize or plan to. The guys that come to see us aren't often loquacious or interesting, so we're left with blocks of time to fill and amuse ourselves. I don't think this is indicative of chemical dependence per se, but if we're not sucking dicks or fucking our pussies, our mouths and hands are prone to boredom.
3. Going to the store is like going to Mordor - it requires a lot of preparation because there can very well be perils amiss. It's not that we aren't proud of what we do for a living, but it's that a lot of guys don't realize that we have lives that are pretty regular when the cam is off. I'm sure I'm not nearly as interesting in baggy jeans & a Walking Dead hoodie, standing in the noodle aisle, deciding which flavour of ramen to treat Myself to…can I shop in peace, ffs? We're better than movie stars because you actually get yours (once you pay)…when was the last time you saw Angelina Jolie fucking her wet cunt on demand? Yea that's right…never.
4. Camgirls often end up living lives of hermitage. Remember when Bon Iver was up in the woods recording that album in his cabin? Yes. That's our retirement plan. Some of us are lucky enough to find love, have supportive friends and families, we even end up throwing dinner parties…but this is not the norm. When you spend day after day, month after month, year after year in front of the camera, your in-person interaction skills become dysfunctional. It's difficult to make small talk and so many of us just opt out of it all together…preferring to talk to our dildos and reminding ourselves to renew our Netflix subscriptions…
Life is good. Then it isn't. Then it's good again. That's life.
Men are pigs, that is true. I guess I'm lucky that I surround myself with decent guys who also know what I go through. Good sex never gets unappealing because it is never free. NOTHING comes for free and everything has a price. In terms of the weed,cigs, and booze, that's not me either. I crochet and knit in free chat and keep the cam zoomed in on my face. However, since getting my own website I have been sitting on camsites even less. This article reminds me that i need to churn out part 2 of my first article. Best way to keep your personal interaction skills up is to go indie and force yourself to be around others. That's why college is such a blessing I am a hermit anyway, but because i love learning I am forced to come out of my shell.I'm always picky about who I talk to and camming is no different.
I'm sorry if this comes across as snarky, but there's a hasty generalization being made that doesn't hold true for everyone.
Honestly, i think i'm happiest with my padded camroom, lighting setup, a couple bags of weed, and an occasional visit from one of my four friends in the world.
Fuck all the rest
Jazzy, the hermitage life is really appealing to me...when I get around people in real life, it's harrowing to endure, lol. I'm looking forward to moving someday so that I'm able to cam & socialize with less worry
One trick I use is having a separate phone. I do sexting, get emails constantly, etc. but I keep one phone personal and the other phone is not on the network it only works on WiFi, so it is my work only phone and when I leave the house it stays home so I don't work when I'm off.
This job is addicting, you have to set up boundaries and space from it somehow.
I told one gf about my camming and unfortunately she told her bf. They split and the ex became a presence on my sites , (yea, I banned him but he kept coming back w a new ID) and of course he told his friends about me.....the bastard!
I stopped camming for awhile then started w a new persona. My relatives and friends would be v judgmental about this work but I can't change the world!
I now live in the shadows regarding camming, it is a 2nd job for me and hope for the best. I do envy girls that can just put everything out but I can't ......so I just try to be v cautious.
And the alcohol bit is me, even though it's not healthy, Ive been know to pour a drink or two just to get in the right frame of mind to get on cam. I dont do it regularly but when its been a tough week, I reach for a couple margs, even in the morning. lol It's 5'oclock somewhere right?
Socializing can be hard sometimes when you cam regularly. I mean if I cam for say 3 hours and I have decent traffic and a lot of conversing, I dont feel like conversing after that. So even though I feel bad for it, not only do I ignore calls from friends surring cam time, but even after because I just have no more to give.
Sorry, I know this reply is way too long. But can totally sympathize.
Yes this is true for me many days. I actually spend more money on getting food delivered just so I can skip this task all together.
Also this " Sex for free often becomes really unappealing"
For me since I'm single and also since I started camming free meaningless sex isn't even an option. It just serves no purpose for me to have meaningless sex that can easily last all of 1.5812 mins, require sheet changing, Plan B, birth control, condoms, extra obgyn visits and then of course playing the game of chance in hopes I'll be able to obtain an orgasm.Let's not forget that if birth control fails then more problems would surface.
Sex is far too expensive for me and the pros never out-weight the cons.
Way too much work.
So I'm at almost 3.5 years no sex at all. Yah! I just cam and love having my orgasms without all of the possible ways things can go wrong. No stds worries, no bc, no condoms, no yeast infections from the accidental slip out + hit the back door+ back in the front door, not laying in the wet spot, not having the 30 second wonder etc.
Just cam fun +$$$= Win!
I always get the guy that takes me private and begins to push for me to escort and I'm thinking huh ??? wtf are you smoking?? That's like telling someone in wheelchair to tryout for the Olympics as a distance runner.
There were times on cam I used to give guys are hard time for doing short privates. Haa like umm I didn't cum !! lol Then I thought ooh wait I got paid yah!! Now I'm like minute me cum on in!
I think the worst is I am married and cannot stand the idea of having sex. I've actually found myself being disgusted by my husbands advances and it's really taking a toll. One thing I have done which seems to be helping is I started an EXTREAMELY part-time job. Just getting beyond these four walls and not having to cater to every perverted whim for a few days a week really seems to be doing the trick! I really wish I could be more Dom... definitely think you girls know how to deal with the assholes we come across better than us quite introverted girls! Maybe I should start working on a Dom alter-ego! 
I don't feel any different about having sex with my/a boyfriend and I never drink any alcohol or smoke any weed. But that could be because I wasn't doing that in the first place (except some alcohol like twice a year or something).
The other stuff.. Well I'm a computer nerd/game geek, so I never really get out much in the first place :')
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