'Love is a serious mental disease.' - Plato Phaedrus
This is everything! I couldn't agree more. This industry became so rewarding for me when I embraced what I am good at, and that is connecting with the people who gravitate towards me for whatever reason. I have learned that it's almost NEVER just about sex (and for those that it is, I usually recommend they find another model.) Thank you for sharing this story. It reminds me why I love doing this so much.
I have so much to say about this I don't even know where to begin.
I'm speechless I hadn't checked her for a while. Is she having slow pay periods too or what?
Beautifully said! I wish this mail would be sent to all camsites and studios, maybe they would start to understand what camming is really about... human connection
I know what he is talking about. Before I first went on cam for the first time almost 7 year ago, I was browsing various models rooms on different sites and hers was one that I got hooked on. I could watch her for hours just interacting with the room. I am not the least bit surprised that she has reached the level of success that she has, she really stands out from the crowd, not just sexy and entising, but she seems like such a lovely and caring person as well. Definitely one of my rolemodels in this industry.
I love this, thank you for sharing. I also love the vulnerability of the author in sharing their story. I ALSO ALSO love the comments here from other models talking about how they know that connection is the key to camming beyond just sex and physical action. It's a unique way to reach people in real time, make them feel alive, and continually create new experiences with people, in a humane way. We can keep others company, we can show others compassion where they least expect it. As cam models we encounter people who want connection, or else they could watch pre-recorded porn. I hope connection, empathy, relationship building, and overall respect and the end of objectification in the camming industry comes soon. I also agree that the sites that have community aspects will outlast the ones that don't in the long run. It feels empty to work for a site that doesn't try to make it feel like a work family, or a place where you're more than just a username. Sorry, I just love this article and have a lot to say lol.
I also am a member on Jasmin and I have had the pleasure of knowing LittleRedBunny as well for many years. David eloquently captures how many of her admirers and members feel about her. She has helped the industry in ways that many may not know of. Five years ago she won the first of many awards, the Sex Awards and then a few months later the Best Camgirl at AVN. During AVN, there was a “mainstream” article written essentially slandering camgirls and the webcam industry with stereotypical comments about the performers. She pursued this author and got an article written by that same author setting the record straight and explaining that camming was not just about “wham bam thank you mam” sex. It was just the first of many articles from her explaining the cam industry in general and showing how relationships are important and can be developed by talking in “free” chat or in private. Ophelia truly cares about members, the reputation of the performers, and the industry as a whole. I actually became interested in the industry and agree with David’s concern. There are self-proclaimed experts now that seek to paint members as bums and should be talked to only if they private. It is true, in life there are many bums, but if that is your approach you will attract even more of them. Other experts claim that the industry is completely exploitive of women and they are forced to perform – basically what that original author said about the industry after AVN. I understand some may feel that economically they have to cam, but I think for most it is a choice made seeing it as an good opportunity. I also understand that there has been an explosion in sites and many people think they merely have to get a website and the cash will flow in. That is not true and many will close, but for now it unfortunately puts a lot of pressure on the performers. I read all the comments and as several of you said it truly is a special way to interact with people. You do actually have the ability to help many of us through difficult times just by talking. That is Ophelia’s philosophy and always has been since the beginning of her career. I am grateful that this industry does exist and I was able to find someone like Ophelia to connect with.
What an inspiring , genuine and motivating article. So wonderful that David shared his perspective and you can see that Ophelia was a blessing in his life as well as hers.
I have had similar experiences as a cam model. I had a burn victim come in my room on the daily, and told me he could never talk to a beautiful woman in person because they would not be able to look at him as the person he is. He felt they probably wouldn’t look at him at all and if they did they would hurry and look away. We had spoke for about 6 months before he told me he was a burn victim, and another 6 months before he opened his camera. It’s amazing how many cam models touch peoples lives without using sexuality. I wish everyone could see this. I love being a cam model! I love all of my fellow cam models, we are truly the only ones who understand who we are and why we do what we do. Sure most of the time we are fulfilling a sexual fantasy, and that’s okay too! You never know who’s on the other side of the computer or why he chose us to fulfill it. It might be deeper than just sex. Thank you to all the cam models that GET IT! Thanks for sharing this article!
This was a great article. It shows that there are more to the live cam industry than just sex. This is the kind of feedback that will help to change the stigma that surrounds our industry. It definitely is about basic need for human connection for a lot people. Ophelia Marcus is a great role model for the live cam community.
Thank you so much for all your words David. This is touching me so deep to the heart. To have the opportunity to meet you in the first place, through this medium, and then to be able to have any positive influence in someone’s life is so invaluable, and not something that everybody can have the chance to do. This is more gratifying than anything and one of the reasons I love and cherish so much what I do and all the people I meet. This experience is making me grow as well and given me much as well, more than I could ever say. Reading you speaking from the heart beats any explanation I could’ve try to share with others to make them understand how rich the encounters we get to have online can be. And for you to be willing to share something so personal is so generous of you and I have so much respect for you. The member’s side of the experience is rarely exposed, and I see it is much appreciated by more than just myself. I’m also so pleased to see all of you, other cam models, that could relate to this. I know many of us got to share such experiences since we all started, and happy you took the time to read and to write such comments as well. Keep embracing what we can truly be through our medium, with all the levels of connection and communication we can have while simply being ourselves. Thank you again David, from the bottom of my heart. Stay awesome and keep climbing up this mountain, you will soon be on the other side of it and I will be there going along with you the whole way! Muah!
I want to thank as well all of you, msNiko, DivaTraffic, that said nice words about me. Such words and compliments, from my own peers in the industry are more than just flattering. It means so much to me. I never expected to get such appreciation and respect. You are all too nice and million thanks again, from the deepest of my heart. I love all the stories shared, I think we might not get to share this side of what we do all that much. Great thing we have WeCamGirls to be able to exchange this way. Also Flatter, thank you for such an insightful comment, and of course all the nice compliments too. Also very happy I got to meet you, and for this long. I did try to enlighten media and the people in mainstream about our industry. It has always been so important to me, and it's still a work in progress, yet it is progressing I believe and it makes me very happy. I do love that you, along other members also got interested in the industry as a whole, being just enjoying the company of a cam model. It is a community, and you are part of it. I hope we get to hear your voices more often too!
This is how I conduct my self. I have no time nor desire to be fake. I care for each customer I receive and I often refuse custom orders if I do not have some kind of connection.
There are so many lonely people out there that we as cam girls can empower to be or become the person they need to be by respecting them and treating them that way. We are all therapists in our own way to those coming to visit us. To be caring and understanding sometimes makes the difference. My LittleRedBunny be the way to go for all of us. I salute you LittleRedBun. Please tell David that he is already an over comer - press forward brave soldier. from a bright sunny South Africa
This is what happens when you take the sex out of the business...Miracles
Damn that was a wonderful letter and reminds me why I love this work. When I’m on cam, I try to connect to everyone and am often humbled at how much respect and trust I get from viewers (there are a LOT of straights in the closet that don’t have people to talk to about their feelings). it is a job and I can’t do it for free, but for me the community of fans, like David, are what keeps me here. Btw, LitteRedBunny, I’ve always admired your approach and so glad to see fans like David writing about how you’ve impacted them!