By LizTaylor column 22 Comments 23 Likes September 6, 2012
This is an article written by LizTaylor, which she shared with us here on WeCamgirls. She has a great style of writing and I hope more will follow!

A misrepresentation of the porn-star mother perseveres. People might imagine a coked-out, troubled adult actress portrayed as an unfit mother because of her career. But in reality, just because a mother has worked or currently works in the adult industry, doesnt mean she cant be a good parent.

If a woman works in the adult industry, can she be a good mother? Of course she can - I am living proof!!!

Its unfortunate that mothers who work in the adult industry are thought to be a lesser-than type of parent. Just like the discrimination of same-sex couples face, raising their children. Mothers who work in the adult industry are thought to be incapable of nurturing healthy children and pass on good values because their lifestyle and career are perceived to be immoral.

We share the same everyday challenges of raising children just like any other mother. If they listened closely, they could all learn a good lesson about parenting from our experiences on how to raise good children, with dedication and love for our children.

Just because youre a webcamgirl, actress, escort or in any other field of the adult indusrty, doesnt mean you cannot be a terrific mother.

I enjoy being on webcam. The fun and frolics entice me... My children are all supportive, grown up and have no problem with what I do. They know it's my choice and its what I love to do. It brings out the best in me and makes me happy. My personality/nature has always been harmless whilst being cheeky, flirty, full of engery, love, passion and gumption. It makes people smile and WOW I love it!!!

My biggest baby is still with me and I love him very much just like the first day I met him. I was very glad that he was sitting down when I told him that I had decided to be a Web Cam Girl. He is an ex-rugby player, very tall and twice my weight (if not more), can you imgaine my poor back trying to lift him if he had fallen to the floor when I had told him? He was speechless to begin with, he talks a lot (just like me) and for the first time there was peace in the house ahhh bliss. Everyday he tells me how sexy I look, now he tells me that he will take my photos to help me create my portfolio. Its all go, go, go here.

There will always be people who do not like you, the way you look, the way you talk, the things you say, they way you dress, the things you believe in, the music you listen to. However, the truth is - it's up to you if you let them ruin your day or if you learn to stand up for yourself and accept yourself just the way you are.

Try to be as good as you can... and if that's not enough for them, it will certainly be for someone else.

You are not here to please anyone. Just be a nice person and true to yourself.

I love my children, I love my husband, I love what I do... This can only mean one thing... Love and not War!!!

Author

LizTaylor

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nicholebinz Hotshot
September 7, 2012 - 13:26

short and sweet, yes you can be a great mother cuz what you are doing for work does not change whats in your heart or how you care for them...Smiley :)

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LilMisMuffet Wizard
September 8, 2012 - 4:49

Great article, thanks Liz. You know how I feel.. Smiley (Y) and for those of you who think what you do for a living makes you less of a person, feel free to speak up cause some of us make the choices we do to better the lives of our children, and IMO have even bigger hearts because of it. Smiley (H)

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Savanah_A Mistress
September 19, 2012 - 21:48

I say it makes me a better mother loll I have TIME for my kid, I see him everyday All day long , anything he needs I can give to him. I am not too tired to take care of him after a long day ( Im a single mother, if I dont take care of him who will ? ) I need all my energy to do so, And since I have been a cam girl Ive had all the energy I need to study, take care of my son, clean , cook home made meals etc the important stuff =)

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SeeMe Ninja
September 24, 2012 - 23:49

Great article. Smiley (flower)

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livvielocke Graduate
September 25, 2012 - 17:30

not a mom but someday hope to be and agree 100% with this article. I currently nanny as well as cam and my boss knows about it. so she pays a cam girl to watch her kids and shes OK with that. I watch 4 young children and she knows what I do doesn't effect her kids lives and she knows I do what i do to make a better life for myself so that when i have kids i can financially support them. I'm sorry that camming pays better then most jobs women have and like miss exxxotic said you have more time to spend with your family. besides nannying I have a niece i watch as well and wouldn't be able to babysit herand help HER MOTHER out if i did not do this.

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mishanox Experienced
September 30, 2012 - 3:55

I agree with MissExxotic, I have recently gotten back into camming in lue of getting a part time job so I know I can be there for my kids when they get home from school. Before when I was going to work for 40-50 hours a week, we would come home, it was dinner (usually OUT b/c we didn't have time to cook a good meal) homework would be done then off to bed. We had to squeeze everything into a weekend - and by that time my husband and I were so tired from our work week. Our family is closer now than we have ever been.

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CrystalSkye Skilled
October 2, 2012 - 20:10

I love it. Thank you so much for this article. I am a mom and new to the cam thing so this just made my day. Thank you so much.

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juicyjasmine Amateur
October 3, 2012 - 5:58

I just wanted to add one more thing to this great article and comments. I feel like I have come into my own so much as a woman webcamming. It has expanded my horizons beyond what I would ever have thought. My mom never spoke of sexuality to me as a young girl and I certainly have changed that with my girls. I have also learned there is not just one way to enjoy sex. I am more open, more willing to experiment and way more comfortable with my body all because of webcamming. All of these things can make for a wonderful , honest discussions with your children later in life when they really need someone to talk to if you have started this early. JAS

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JuicyJadaCox Rookie
October 5, 2012 - 0:47

I have been camming for years and i believe it made me a better mother, one who was home. Recently I crossed into porn, and I have been going back and forth in my own mind about being involved in 2 completely opposite worlds. I loved this article, it reminded me that as long as my kids grow up happy and independent it doesnt matter what i do. Smiley (H)

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xMystiquex Jedi
October 11, 2012 - 0:32

Can't believe I've just read this topic now. Totally agree with all that's been said. I am a mum but saying that my kids had left home before I started camming, they both know what I do and are surprisingly cool with it. It's not the job you do but the person you are that matters. Smiley :D

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RoxieQuin Superstar
October 15, 2012 - 1:33

Awesome article Smiley (flower) Totally agree

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CollaredPrin Hero
October 17, 2012 - 4:38

I believe it has nothing to do with being a good mother. ~~CP

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OriginalCyn Graduate
October 18, 2012 - 8:50

I'm about to file papers to take my ex husband to court for custody issues. He has threatened me by saying he has 450 stills of me holding my butt plug (assuming he found me on cam, lol.....well not really funny bc my ex is very much into power and control) and my lawyer is worried about me possibly losing custody over this. So, in the end you guys, you may feel a certain way about it - but the courts/judges see differently. At least in CA I guess bc she thinks this is the only thing holding me back from attaining what it is I seek in this most recent move for mediation. I may be willing to open up more privately, but suffice to say I was an escort in 2007 and my ex had known, but was able to take my daughter away from me in 2009 for 6 months (2 years after i'd QUIT escorting - and he knew that) because there were pics of me up online (old ads...even huge drastic weight loss, once labeled a sex worker they no longer trust you)....so i'm very worried.

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sandrine Queen
October 24, 2012 - 15:02

good articleSmiley (flower) also have 2 kids and hope they have the same reaction as your kids when i tell them XOXOSmiley (K)

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KinkyDenise Learner
October 29, 2012 - 8:23

Here in the Netherlands (Europe) it not a big issue. I think that a mother working as a camgirl still can be a good, maybe even better, mother! Why? Much money, much time for kids..and what i think that is really important too: Mothers working in the industrie are really openminded, so i think they can give the children the right answers about sex and stuff when the time comes.

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yingyang Learner
November 12, 2012 - 23:07

loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeee it ..... and i feel the same of everyone here...im a mom 2.... this topic is perfect...

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xoxoallycat Superstar
November 13, 2012 - 20:37

A mother and an Adult Industry Performer are two different jobs. If you're not incorporating the two and if you're not this person then your career choice should not reflect your parenting abilities.

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MamaRedHot Goddess
January 7, 2013 - 2:20

I am such a better mom now because of camming. I used to work 60-80 hours a week and never saw my family. Now I can take them to school, attend their events, cook for them, read to them, the list just goes on and on. My children have their mother back. And seeing the joy on their face when I sit down to dinner with them every night is enough for me to know that I am doing the right thing!

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cgrace123 Beginner
January 31, 2013 - 21:41

i still have a long ways till i become a mother but i truly enjoyed this article. it was empowering to read just from a woman's perspective.

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ninaellexxx Rookie
March 7, 2013 - 5:06

My children were why I got into this, becouse I wanted to provide better for them and be able to spend more time with them.I do believe it has made me a better mother becouse now I have more patiences...and there's not to much that freaks me out anymore! LOL! Smiley (H)

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ChastityK8 Learner
March 16, 2013 - 16:35

As a good mother I would like to suggest some of the traits that make me a good mother make me a good business woman. Performing isn't my only work, I have a so called "vanilla" job that I enjoy as well, but my prespective is "I work for my children" not matter what job I'm doing! I enjoyed this article, thank you!

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Jessilane Demigod
February 1, 2014 - 4:52

I love this article. thank you Jessi

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