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I love adding new books on the subject of personal development and spirituality to my library (or my iPod as I'm addicted to audio books). Lately, I've been reading "Resurrecting Venus: Embracing Your Feminine Power" by the beautiful Cynthia Occelli. I discovered Cynthia's message on
" target="_blank" rel="noopener nofollow">her YouTube channel and immediately felt drawn to her. Since then, I've been able to connect with her via social media and realized we are indeed kindred spirits.

I'm always relating the books I read to being a webcam model and looking for ways in which a particular concept can be adapted to the webcam modeling experience. So when I read the following passages in "Resurrecting Venus" it instantly reminded me of a
" target="_blank" rel="noopener nofollow">YouTube video I posted a while back about my total frustration with webcam models who are willing to do so much for too little.

Here's some wisdom from "Resurrecting Venus: Embracing Your Feminine Power" translated into camgirl terms:

"No one should work for less than the market value of her work. Check inside. Ask yourself, Should they? When I ask this question and itís applied to anyone other than the person who is undercharging, they always say, ďOf course not.Ē We all know there is something wrong with paying someone less than they deserve. Though some people feel like they've won something when they manage to under-pay, this is not the energy you want to put out to the Universe, unless you are ready to have it returned to you in spades."

Camgirl Translation: You are not doing anyone any favors by charging $.99/min for cam shows when the MARKET VALUE for a show is $3.99/min or more. If you put yourself on the discount rack, expect to attract discount minded customers.

"Paying for a product or service instills in the buyer an affirmative belief in the value of the purchase. People do not value what they get at a deep discount."

Camgirl Translation: Why do you think Maserati, Christian Louboutin, and other high end brands aren't advertising super discount sales every week? Could you imagine if every week Christian Louboutin was tweeting that you could get 30 pairs of red-bottoms for $30. Think about how fast the value and allure of owning these shoes would plummet? It seems like such an obvious concept, and yet, constantly cam models are on twitter running "a sale" on their clips and cam shows. ("Get all 30 of my clips for $5! WTH!?) Why should anyone pay full price, when they know all they have to do is wait until the end of the month and you'll discount everything anyway?

"Donít make decisions out of negative programming or fear. Be objective. Whether you are employed by a company or run your own business, study three positions, businesses, or products that are similar to yours and make sure that your rates, salary, or prices are competitive. Update your research from time to time."

Camgirl Translation: This is why it's important for webcam models to have a reason why they want to get into this business that has nothing to do with money. If you are pricing yourself from the mindset of being desperate for money, then you are setting yourself up for failure. Any decision made from lack, limitation, not enoughness, fear or desperation will only result in a situation that causes you more lack, limitation, not enoughness, fear and desperation. You are not passing out burgers and fries here. A cam site is not meant to be the dollar menu. You are sharing your most intimate energy with others and that is very valuable. The sooner you know and start charging your worth, the sooner your pay will reflect as such.

Occelli, Cynthia (2012-10-22). Resurrecting Venus: Embracing Your Feminine Power (Kindle Locations 1999-2002). Hay House. Kindle Edition.



Losers make excuses, winners make it happen.


Savanah_A Mistress
December 1, 2012 - 18:28

Thats The Way Ive been thinking for Months now, And thats how im gonna KEEP doing my thing, I dont care if I dont make money one day and theres Losers in my room complaining my prices are too HIGH, I aint gonna lower my prices for NOBODY, Id reather NOT make money then sell myself cheap !

UniqueDivine Demigod
December 2, 2012 - 2:31

That's right, MissExxxoctic! If they can't afford Louboutin send they asses to Payless where they belong!

BlazeFyre Hero
December 8, 2012 - 16:56

I hate the whole "get all my videos for $5!" I just find it sickening to me. It takes me hours to edit and upload and even shoot the darn thing. My videos are always $10 or more each. There's no way I will ever do that. Sometimes I use my videos as prizes and if I do a bundle discount I only take $5-$10 off depending on how many are in the package deal.

Savanah_A Mistress
December 11, 2012 - 1:51

I know... I see some of the TOP performers of mfc Regularly on twitter like... Omgg I didnt reach my goal, Okay okay then Im selling all 28 of my videos+ 30 pictures for 200 tkns ( 10$) Its only for today ! Then I see them few days later , desperate to reach their goal again, do the same thing. But You know... I guess When Youre stressing about bills and depts youre ready to do everything. Even me sometimes On bad days, when I know the first of the month is coming up, It is so tempting to say like... OKAY MASTURBATION SHOW 200 tkns loll When I usurly charge like 1000. But I hold my self loll

SexySuzzie Ninja
December 17, 2012 - 5:43

Very helpful and thanks for the info Smiley :)

FeistY Novice
December 19, 2012 - 23:22

Awesome info ! I won't present myself short just to earn less. I'm only an amature at what I do .. but what I have is worth every $$. Thanks for sharing. Smiley (H)

SultryJezzi Hero
January 7, 2013 - 17:40

Beautifully written.

GoddessClaes Crown Prince
January 12, 2013 - 4:33

This is something that I've slowly been coming to realize. I've become less wanting to give, I thought people would see that it's worth it to come to me, but all it has drawn is freeloaders. I've given myself a whole new attitude and have been firm with my 'basic/gray' fans lately. Surprise surprise, I made more than I had in 3 days, in... 34 minutes. I couldn't believe it. I didn't sit topless or 'slut' myself up as much and just turned on some tunes and did my thing. I never had so many premiums show up in my room so damn fast. 2 out of 5 that showed up within 5 minutes asked for a Skype show. And they both took my new prices seriously. I know I still don't charge 3.99 a minute, but not being in the bargain bin... it brings the better kind of guys around.

rubadubtug Skilled
January 16, 2013 - 18:16

excellent advice!

tls Hero
January 31, 2013 - 22:52

Ah, Unique... I really enjoyed reading your article :-) I get that how I've been establishing my rates is based on how much I want my income to be from this, along with considering the charges of others I've observed so far. Now, I'll run specials, release promo length videos as like POS products. I'm clear with my members/viewers on the real that spending time with me cost. If they complain, then it's just the case that I'm not what they're looking for. I also definitely identify with the importance of having other reasons outside of the money for electing to offer the services we do for it seems that money can be generated from anything. There's a reason why we choose this as a stream for income. When I'm having fun, I reach my financial goals with ease; yet when I'm feeling some type of way about my money, then that shows up for me too, lol... That's why I generally don't broadcast when I'm in that space - being in that mood when I'm not projecting my value - it'll just piss me off. I like this thread Smiley (cool)

graciemack Experienced
February 2, 2013 - 15:43

Really very well written post. Thank you for taking your time to present those valuable insights. I believe we are our own worst critics. This makes it difficult for some of us to place pricing on ourselves. Recently, I raised my per minute charge on livejasmin. The first time I went online. It seemed slower than usual. I of course attributed it to my rate increase. I vowed to lower my rate back the next time I signed on. Well, I have an extensive "pre-flight checklist" before logging on and I forgot to change my charge the following log in. I proceeded to have a record night on the site. I had never been so busy with private chat. New members, old friends, it was incredible. After I logged off, my bf said "hey gracie, did you realize you had that night at your new higher rate"? Lesson learned. I kept my rate where it was.

TrinetyGuess Ninja
February 6, 2013 - 0:40

love it! couldnt agree more! Value yourself so other will too Smiley (H)

LisaLinny Hero
February 7, 2013 - 7:02

This is good stuff! I was told that by a cam friend of mind, and she really banks! She doesn't give ANYTHING away for free, and acts as though she doesn't care if they take her pvt, or that shes needs the money. She presents herself as a top class lady, and that's the type of members she gets! She spends at least 90% of her time in pvt! Definitely food for thought!

LisaLinny Hero
February 11, 2013 - 5:38

Good stuff! I love your mindset. I am a believer in what you are saying here, and I need to remind myself of that every day. I sometimes fall back into that negative pattern of thinking in lack, and it doesn't serve me at all! Thank you for sharing this with us, and I will pass this along to others as well. Smiley :)

UniqueDivine Demigod
February 12, 2013 - 21:30

Thank you for all the love and comments on my article ladies. I am SOOO glad that it has been helpful to you all. You are all WORTH it! Smiley (H)

pandora Goddess
February 14, 2013 - 17:45

I went down in price, and found it to be aweful, not only did i not make much money, but i devalued myself in such a way it took me some work to get out of that mindset and realize my worth. I am one of the most expensive models on livejasmin, and some have critized me for it, but i will keep my price and worth.

Shellee Rookie
April 8, 2013 - 8:09

I work on Streammates. I keep my prices firmly set at their maximum (4.49/premium and 4.99 exclusive). My strategy is to wait for the guys with $ to spend. They always come along. I humor the freeloaders when I'm in the mood. Sometimes, I will say to one, "joe, you have visited me many times, right"? He says "Ya! You're so sexy bb". That's when I say, 'wow babe during that time you've never taken me into a private show or tipped me. Are you ready to do that"? This always results in his parting with some money or leaving, making room for paying customers.

LilyAnn38 Wizard
April 18, 2013 - 7:27

Very empowering and insightful! Thank you for this article. I will def be keeping this in my tool box for camming. I really need to print it and keep it on my monitor so that I stay focused.

GamerGirl Hero
October 22, 2013 - 6:46

love love love this. very inspirational. thanks! if only more camgirls followed this advice >_> if everyone charged $3.99 a minute and up...thered be less freeloaders because they wouldn't be so used to girls selling themselves for dirt cheap

Velauria Superstar
May 18, 2014 - 1:43

This gave me a lot to think about. A lot. Thank you.

bottomup99 Novice
June 6, 2014 - 22:08

Great read! Thank you Unique. If I don't value myself, then why should anyone else?

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